Moving with teenagers in tow can be a challenge, but with the right mix of sympathy, understanding and a little compromising, it doesn’t have to be a disaster.
It's important to understand that in the majority of cases having to move will undoubtedly be a stressful process. It might be easier on some family members than on others, and your teen might have a specially hard time with it.
Finding good friends and a social group to belong to can be a tedious and challenging process for most teens, it is especially hard during a time in their lives when they are already going through so many physical and emotional changes. And let's not forget that at that stage in their lives, teenagers’ friends and the fun things they do together are a huge part of who they are.
Not surprisingly, your teen might find the news of moving to a new place, especially if it far away, a hard pill to swallow. The thought alone of having to go through the entire process of finding friends and figuring out where they will fit in can be very intimidating. Naturally your child might be resistant and for good reason, so before laying down the iron hammer, try a little sympathy.
There's no need to automatically assume your son or daughter is unhappy about moving. Though a lot of teens are hurt and angry, others look forward to the new start. Depending on whether your teenage child has been feeling happy or miserable with the way things currently stand in their life, they will either strongly object to the move or gladly welcome the relocation.
-Things You Can Do
Be sure to tell your teenager about the move as soon as it is definite, the more time you can give him or her to transition the better. This time, will be crucial for your child to accept the situation and make plans with their friends to properly say goodbye, how and if they will stay in touch, research their new town and anything else that might make them feel better about the upcoming challenge.
Try to get your teen excited about their new home, spend some time with them doing research online on fun and exciting things to do and cool places in your new city.
Don't ignore or minimizing the real difficulties that moving presents to teenagers, this will only make them feel worse. To help your child make the transition as smoothly as possible, parents have to know when and how to intervene and when to let it be.
Give them something to look forward to. If there is any way at all, plan a return visit with them back to the current city within the next few months so that they can see their good friends again.
Scheduling the relocation around the academic year if at all possible can definitely make things a little easier. This will make it easier and less disruptive to your teens school grades and social life.
Have an open conversation with your child, and ask them for ways to help them make the move easier. Let them be involved in the process, they might just be feeling like they don't have a voice at all and being heard could make them feel much better.
Lastly, be patient, be very patient. Soon enough you will all be settled into your new home and they will inevitably start adapting to their new life.